Sex is always on the mind and on most college student’s radars–regardless of if you’re sexually active or not–you’re thinking about sex. The myth about dudes thinking with their dicks doesn’t necessarily apply to just men these days–girls definitely want to have a good time too but sometimes “something” holds them back.
In a recent discussion with a close friend, we gossiped about our current relationships with men and I shared some details that occurred in between the sheets. Though I openly talk about sex and dating—I began to realize that some of my friends don’t. And that’s because they can’t, because they’re either uncomfortable or have yet to swipe their v-card. There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin and in fact, I began getting curious as to why chicks and dudes were keeping the candy jar sealed. I mean, don’t some virgins wonder why a majority of college students are hooking up every weekend? The interest is mutual (in the most nonjudgmental way).
A recent study conducted by WD Mosher in October 2012 stated that 45.1 percent of men between the ages of 15 to 19 years old were virgins and 42.9 percent of women between the same age group were also virgins. That’s a pretty big percentage—I mean think about it. That’s almost half. Half of my friends aren’t having sex.
Sure there are reasons behind why people remain virgins including the common choices of religion or personal preference. But when you shift past these reasons you will find a common and very real reason. The big C word (keep your mind out of the gutter)— C is for Commitment.
As surprising as this may sound, men as well as women just want to have a committed partner. On a college campus finding that special individual to do the deed with can be hard and challenging. And then, you think you’ve found that perfect person and it turns out they send you a Snapchat that they meant to send to the girl other they’ve hooking up with… awkward.
The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships did a report in 1997, which surveyed 691 individuals—some were single and having sex with a randos and others were in a committed relationship. Of those 691, the 38% reported to be in a relationship were much happier, healthier, and had an overall more positive well being then those who were sleeping around.
So we get it, being in a relationship is probably much healthier then hooking up with a long list of frat stars on the weekends. It makes sense that some people want to remain virgins until they find the right one—though that boat has sailed a while ago, we can always learn from our mistakes, right?
“Single Girl” is tired of hooking up with random dudes at frat parties, dealing with men leading her on, and always having to make the first move. Dealing with the unfortunate scene of college dating, “Single Girl” tackles the topics of love, lust, and relationships.