Sweetie, Darling, Baby, Babe, and Honey are a few of the most used nicknames that couples will dub for one another in hopes of showing their positive love and affection. It’s become so common in our society that it’s almost weird to go by our given birth names (think about it, how often do you call your best girlfriends by their full names?) The cliché “Honey, I’m home!” is a given in any chick flick or rom com—we can’t escape these pet names no matter how hard we try!
It’s safe to say that nicknames, more specifically, cutesy names are a commonality. For committed couples, this may be a cause for relationship fights, bad sex, and even an eventual break up. Though it seems almost impossible for a name like “Sweetie Pie” to really ruin a relationship—according to authors Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis of “Stop Calling Him Honey,”—the simple use of a nickname can.
These co-authors explain how couples will place themselves into this adorable, bow-in-her-hair, baby mindset that will cause them to feel deflated when it comes time to get down to business. Sex then becomes more precious and less fun, which of course is fine…but sometimes sex just needs to be damn straight sexy.
Another good point mentioned—by refusing to call your boyfriend his real name, you’re allowing a portion of his identity to erode. You’ve grown up with a name all your life; it’s a part of you—just like his name is a part of him. Suddenly, if part of his identity isn’t used, then part of him is not in your relationship…and that’s just weird.
Not that you want your mind to lead this way but, you’re not the only woman to ever be in your mans life. He’s had girlfriends, crushes, and hook up’s before. So that psycho ex girlfriend of his that still texts him and thinks they’re getting back together? Yeah, she’s definitely called him and his penis all the nicknames in the book. If that doesn’t freak you out then I don’t know what will.
Whatever your personal preference is, just keep these facts in mind. You never know, a nickname may just be the one thing that’s causing your relationship problems… or it may be the one thing to scare that creepy dude away. My personal favorite? Call him Lovey Yummers, that’s one that is guaranteed to have him running.
Some of the worst nicknames known to man kind:
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