If you’re a hopeless romantic or just have boy troubles (which I assume you relate to one of the two if you’re reading this blog,) then you’ve probably at some point connected music to what you’re feeling. I have different artists and even songs for different people and emotions. I’m sure at this point it’s obvious that I don’t reserve Taylor Swift for one emotion but for all of them.
When I date people one of the most important things for me is that my boyfriend can handle listening to TSwift because that’s all we’re going to listen to if I’m driving us anywhere. And since I’m always open to new music I love getting playlists and hearing new artists, so music sharing is mutual. Not only do you have songs that remind you of me, but also I have songs that remind me of you.
So when you’re trying to get over someone or something, it’s really hard when there’s so much music that can relate to different aspects of a relationship. This got me to thinking about what it must be like for someone to no longer be dating me. I mean, it sucks (because they’re not with me, duh) but also because literally Taylor Swift is everywhere. She’s on the radio, on the Internet, and in the news. You can’t escape the girl no matter how hard you try. Even if you hear the name Taylor or words like “fearless,” “enchanting,” and “magical” you’ll still think of her and me.
It became obvious to me that whenever someone hears Taylor they’re going to think about me. Like I’m imprinted onto their brain. Like it’s burned in.
I had an ex who ended things with me and then thought it would be fun to play with my feelings and lead me on. He would text me things all the time like “I saw Taylor perform at XYZ award show and it made me think of you,” or “Love Story came on the radio and I thought about that time we had our first kiss to it,” barf.
But it isn’t just like this for them; it’s like it for me as well. And for you, and your exes. Whenever I hear John Mayer I think about how we only listened to his CD while we were dating because it’s all we could agree on. Whenever I hear “Daylight” by Maroon 5, I think about one of the saddest goodbyes of my life. When I hear “Hey There Delilah” I’ll think about the soundtrack to our summer. When I hear “Last Kiss” by Taylor Swift I’ll remember how I use to think it was the saddest song in the world because of you.
It’s crazy how I can be so over these relationships but these melodies will remind me of someone or something. I wasn’t able to listen to the song “Last Kiss” for months without crying and I eventually had to turn to a different version by a different artist.
Long after a relationship is over, music can still be a remaining particle of a love that has ended. My best advice for still listening to songs you love with baggage? Listen to them again and again on repeat, desensitize yourself from the lyrics and the cords, and learn to become emotionless about it. If you detach from the relationship and the song, it’ll be just a regular tune or like listening to something from the top 100—light, fluffy, and enjoyable.
Make that song just another picture to burn. Burn, burn, burn baby burn.
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